Everyone wants to be part of the "in crowd," right? Our definitions of "in crowd" may be different but, the feeling is universal. We want to be a part of…
I was looking through some old writing today and came across this. I wrote it 885 days ago, when I was 66 days sober. Sixty six days sober was pre-…
There's this thing that's inside of me that I really need to get out into the open. It may not make sense to everyone but, to the people who know…
I was driving from southern Connecticut to the north shore of Massachusetts when I heard it: "Supreme Court Justice Anthony Kennedy has resigned." I felt the wind get knocked out…
I can't believe we're half way through Pride month already!! I hope everyone is having a fantastically, queer time and that you're able to take time for yourself when you…
It’s the 15th of the month so that means it’s time for the next installment of We’re Here, We’re Queer!
I keep reading Jen’s story over and over because I love how she keeps changing and evolving with time, as things feel right for her. She just celebrated her nine years last week and I’m so excited to see what the future will bring for her.
Another milestone in my sobriety journey recently occurred. I’ve now been sober for longer than I drank which is an astounding fact and one that continues to shock me. (more…)
This month is the first installment of a new series I’m doing called We’re Here, We’re Queer! The series will be a way for me to spotlight a different queer or trans member of the recovery community on the 15th of each month by giving them a space to tell their own recovery story. The stories can and will be a mix of mediums: writing, photography, visual art, poetry, etc. Some will be anonymous, some will not. Some will be a “work in progress” as people are working their way to/through recovery and some will be from people who have been in recovery for years. There will be one common thread – they are all part of the LGBTQIA+ community.
I am really excited to share this first contribution to We’re Here, We’re Queer! I feel so lucky to be able to share Shayna’s story of both her journey to sobriety and accepting her sexuality. I could probably write an entire post about how much I love her story but, I think I’ll just let you read it for yourself:
It’s noon and I just got out of bed. I wasn’t sleeping that whole time — it’s just that it’s raining out and I love the sound of rain more than almost anything so, I stayed in bed to listen to it.
I’m a slow burn. It takes me a long time go get things done. My friendships build slowly, the tasks I do have lots of breaks built in, it can take me so long to realize I like someone romantically that they have often already moved on to friend mode by the time my light bulb goes on. Acting quickly, when it relates to myself, is something I’ve never been keen on. Rapid fire questions can give me an anxiety attack, I like to get to events early so they can fill in around me, I love my fucking couch. I’m afraid. Of what, you ask? Well, pretty much everything. (more…)
I had my last drink on January 27th, 2016. I was on vacation, alone, in Hawaii. That next morning I was done with it. It was an interesting vacation after that, crying on the beach every day. This decision came after at least two years of agonizing and thinking and justifying my relationship with alcohol. This came after years of using, first, self-mutilation (cutting) and eventually alcohol to help me deal with feelings. I was 35 years old and I was about to learn how to really be a human for the first time.
As I began finding my path and my people in the recovery space, things got easier. I was able to deal with how I felt as it was happening. I was able to hold my boundaries and take care of myself. There was one thing missing for me though, the stories of other queer people. (more…)