You’d Be Pretty If You Wore Make Up
The first clear memory I have of explicitly being told that who I am is wrong was when I was a kid. I don’t really know how old I was;…
The First Time I Quit Drinking
I had a whole list of things to do today so, it stands to reason that I spent hours listening to the Michael Cohen hearing and then decided…
Strong isn’t a prerequisite for being queer
I recently had an exchange with a cishet guy on Instagram. It was on a post I made about how we shouldn't assume our kids are straight and the harm…
I Am Not A Good Person
If there's one thing that's gotten in my way more than anything else, it's the idea that I need to be "the good one". At first glance, being good sounds…
New Year, New… Nope
New Year's resolutions. If you're anything like me, just reading that phrase made you roll your eyes or maybe feel a little sick to your stomach or possibly you felt…
I Still Have Holiday Anxiety
I wanted to write about my holiday anxiety but, I'm not interested in adding to the sea of "how to beat your holiday anxiety" blog posts and articles out there.…
Sobriety Is My Greatest Tool For Surviving In The United States Today
Lately, it seems there's a new piece of violent, traumatic news coming out every day. Or more accurately, multiple times a day. In the past 10 days we've had the…
1000 Days
One thousand days ago I woke up in Honolulu and said "no more." All I knew then was that I could see my future if I kept drinking and it…
An Effective Queer Revolution Cannot Center Alcohol
A few months ago, I posted on Instagram about the link between alcohol and oppression. The quote I chose to highlight this point was by the late Jean Swallow, editor…
Creating Our Own Community
Everyone wants to be part of the "in crowd," right? Our definitions of "in crowd" may be different but, the feeling is universal. We want to be a part of…