By Any Other Name
People (mostly afab folks of all genders) reach out to me on a regular basis, telling me that they’ve just begun to realize that they aren’t straight or cis, but…
Kids and LGBTQ Identities
It’s no surprise for me to point out that we live in a society that centers straight, cis people. From the time we’re born, we’re bombarded with messages from family,…
How To Survive My Birthday
I was born just before sunrise on the day after Thanksgiving in 1980. The story goes that I was two weeks late making my grand entrance into this world and…
You’d Be Pretty If You Wore Make Up
The first clear memory I have of explicitly being told that who I am is wrong was when I was a kid. I don’t really know how old I was;…
The First Time I Quit Drinking
I had a whole list of things to do today so, it stands to reason that I spent hours listening to the Michael Cohen hearing and then decided…
Strong isn’t a prerequisite for being queer
I recently had an exchange with a cishet guy on Instagram. It was on a post I made about how we shouldn't assume our kids are straight and the harm…
I Am Not A Good Person
If there's one thing that's gotten in my way more than anything else, it's the idea that I need to be "the good one". At first glance, being good sounds…
New Year, New… Nope
New Year's resolutions. If you're anything like me, just reading that phrase made you roll your eyes or maybe feel a little sick to your stomach or possibly you felt…
I Still Have Holiday Anxiety
I wanted to write about my holiday anxiety but, I'm not interested in adding to the sea of "how to beat your holiday anxiety" blog posts and articles out there.…
Sobriety Is My Greatest Tool For Surviving In The United States Today
Lately, it seems there's a new piece of violent, traumatic news coming out every day. Or more accurately, multiple times a day. In the past 10 days we've had the…