I Am Not A Good Person
If there's one thing that's gotten in my way more than anything else, it's the idea that I need to be "the good one". At first glance, being good sounds…
New Year, New… Nope
New Year's resolutions. If you're anything like me, just reading that phrase made you roll your eyes or maybe feel a little sick to your stomach or possibly you felt…
I Still Have Holiday Anxiety
I wanted to write about my holiday anxiety but, I'm not interested in adding to the sea of "how to beat your holiday anxiety" blog posts and articles out there.…
Sobriety Is My Greatest Tool For Surviving In The United States Today
Lately, it seems there's a new piece of violent, traumatic news coming out every day. Or more accurately, multiple times a day. In the past 10 days we've had the…
1000 Days
One thousand days ago I woke up in Honolulu and said "no more." All I knew then was that I could see my future if I kept drinking and it…
An Effective Queer Revolution Cannot Center Alcohol
A few months ago, I posted on Instagram about the link between alcohol and oppression. The quote I chose to highlight this point was by the late Jean Swallow, editor…
Creating Our Own Community
Everyone wants to be part of the "in crowd," right? Our definitions of "in crowd" may be different but, the feeling is universal. We want to be a part of…
Genderless
How do I explain what it's like to not have a gender? How can I describe something that has been a part of me for my entire life, the very…
885 Days Ago
I was looking through some old writing today and came across this. I wrote it 885 days ago, when I was 66 days sober. Sixty six days sober was pre-…
Not Offended
I've been out for over 20 years so you can imagine that I've had my fair share of situations where I've had to point out homophobic and transphobic language. When…